Bit of a long read ahead! Hope it's okay to post this here. I started a new job about a month ago, and a lady (let's call her Kelly) started on the same day. We work as lab assistants. We quickly made friends, which seemed great at first because we're specifically assigned to work the late shift together.
However, I feel that she's becoming overly friendly and even unprofessional. I like making friends at work because it makes it more pleasant, but she massively overshares and it sometimes makes me uncomfortable, and possibly even makes me look unprofessional by proxy.
As an example, we were in the break room today, and without me asking she started telling a very detailed story of a guy she slept with. Another coworker walked in and she didn't stop the extremely graphic retelling, and I couldn't think of a polite way to shut her down. She often overshares like this, and I'm not a prude but I'm quite private about my love life, especially at work.
And as much as I like her, she always tries to take her breaks with me. We have unstructured breaks, and sometimes I kind of feel like chilling by myself with my lunch and checking my messages, but she'll always ask when I'm taking lunch and follow me.
Worst of all, today I was assessing her on a piece of equipment we work on, and she announced to the team leader (who we'll call Cara), "I'm so glad AncientMachine is assessing me!" It was extremely awkward, but I actually had to fail her because she simply wouldn't listen to my advice (I kept telling her when she was doing something wrong and she kept doing it anyway, so I couldn't pass her).
I took the team leader aside and told her I was going to have to fail Kelly on the assessment, and Cara said she's glad I brought that up because she wonders if we've been getting overly friendly, given that Kelly seemed so delighted I would be assessing her, and it made Cara wonder if I should be assessing Kelly at all because I might be too lenient. Cara is very nice and said not to worry, that she'd say the results of the test were inconclusive and she'll have to assess her again, so I won't have to break the news to Kelly that her test wasn't up to standards.
I'm already signed off to use the equipment and able to train others, but she's taken a lot of vacation time even though she's been here less than a month, so she's behind a lot of us on training. Other coworkers have commented that she doesn't seem that bothered about the job, so being associated with her could make me look bad too.
Also, Kelly tends to follow me around the lab a lot. Sometimes we have quiet periods when we don't have much work to do, and she'll just gravitate towards me and ask what I'm doing. Sometimes I just want to check my emails or whatever without having her hovering, but I can't think of a polite way to tell her to leave me alone for a bit. I normally just say, "I'm just busy with something right now," but she doesn't always get the hint.
I do like Kelly, but I feel I need to nip this in the bud and maybe pull away a little bit. I want to be friends with her, especially as we're on the late shift together and so we're alone at the end of the night and need to have a good relationship, but I don't want to jeopardise my reputation at work.
Final note: Kelly is planning on leaving the job in about six months to do a master's degree, so this shouldn't be a permanent problem anyway, but I think I need to do something about it now.
Would love any advice! I'm seriously close to just having a word with her and saying we shouldn't be too close at work, or just firmly say, "I want to take lunch alone today." Maybe that's the best way. Anyway, thanks for reading.
**tl;dr** Co-worker is overly friendly and clingy. I do like her but wonder how to distance myself a little and keep professional boundaries, especially as my team leader is slightly concerned we're too close.
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