Is it weird to ask the interviewer (for the interview I decided to decline) out for a coffee?

As far as the title goes I see it's a bit controversial, so I owe some explanation about who I am and what situation I'm in.

I graduated from UCaa (just to stay anonymous) last June with BS in electrical engineering. It took me 5 years to graduate, only because I wasn't sure if EE was my thing. There was a lot of pressure from my stereotypical Asian parents to pursue STEM degree, and at the time EE was the major that attracts "big bucks" (not going to go as far to say that's not true, but I think the irony is implied). So until my 3rd year, I did not take a single EE course. Not one. I spent my 4th and 5th year cramming my schedule with EE courses. To be honest I think that's amazing, even for me, how I was yet able to graduate. But as all of you are aware, because I spent 2 years only busting my butt just to pass the class, I didn't have any chance or time to realize what was more important for my career: internships and experience. I wasn't aware of its importance even after a month after graduation. All I had after my graduation was 2.6 GPA, leadership experience in a student organization with zero relevance to my career, and a project I finished just to graduate. My resume even to this day is kinda empty and pathetic.

So 3 months after graduation, I decided to move back to aa to look for careers. I actively searched for jobs, attended career fairs, visited professors, and asked as many connections as possible if any job was available. As a result I did get a chance to interview in a small firm to work as an intern, which I turned down because at the end of the interview they were asking me to work as a technician rather than an engineer. I wasn't sure if I wanted to be an EE in the first place but a technician? So I declined. I watched tons of career advice videos, and most of them said to not waste my time and build something. I found that a bit difficult because I didn't know where to start. I was on a trajectory to feeling overly depressed and regretful after I realized the importance of networking and internship experience after I graduated. That's when I took interest in programming (I remembered how I had fun programming in C for my EE courses). So then I started to learn basics of CS from CS50, edX, and couple of CS course websites in UCaa that didn't get deleted. It was kind of depressing again to think that if I majored in CS instead I would probably be in much better situation. While I was studying myself I took a job in a restaurant to support myself. That life seemed ok: it was going to take a bit of time, but at least I know what path I'm on.

Then this happened: around early 2018, my mom confessed the financial difficulty I didn't know about, that has been ongoing for past 8 months, after her divorce with my dad, which I also did not know about. Apparently she wanted to hide it from me, because she didn't want me to give up on what I was doing. I then started to take the job at the restaurant as a full-time job and give most of what I earned to my mom, because the industry she's working in isn't going so well, even to this day. At that point career didn't matter; I just didn't want to lose my old house and wanted to relieve my mom a bit from the stress. I stopped applying to jobs, and I studied when I wasn't working or sleeping. I could literally feel my health degenerating, and I was depressed for months. Eventually I had to move out of aa and back to my home to cut my spendings and help my mom directly. We're still under a huge financial stress, which is why I'm still working part-time jobs at restaurants. One thing different is that as long as I've cut some spending for me, I decided I might as well try to find a job in my career to eventually make the "big bucks" and get out of this crisis.

So that's my situation, and here's what I've done so far: I tried to learn programming so I could do SE for my career, but during my search for good tutorials I found FCC and started to learn web development on June. It's been 4 months and now I know a bit about front-end development (HTML5, CSS3, JS, lil bits about Bootstrap, jquery). Last week, I was invited for an interview as a Jr. electrical sales engineer. I was obviously very excited, and prepared a lot. At this point not wanting an EE job wasn't even a thing to consider; as long as I can find a career I'm fine. So today, I was supposed to attend the interview for that position. But this morning I got an email from a small tutoring center for an Entry level Front End Developer position, saying that they want to interview me. I gave a good hour to think about it 6am in the morning, and decided to send the interviewer for jr. electrical sales engineer an apology mail saying I got an interview opportunity that better fits my goals. The interviewer said he understood, and thanked me for letting him know, even though it was at the last minute. I know. This is crappy of me and I'm kinda insane. As far as the FED position goes it was shockingly underpaid job, and I feel like I'm not going to learn a lot, but that's just me underrating everything and I'm thinking about taking it.

I have a lot of things in my mind right now. I feel downright pathetic, and I have no one to reach out to. Believe me I want to, but I just don't know how. I spend much of my time searching for jobs, and when I'm done applying to bunch of companies I google things something along the lines of "What can I do to be a better candidate for jobs?" I don't have any friends working in the industry. I want someone to reach out to and take career advice, and I want to listen to their story about what they did, how they did it, and how it felt.

I looked up the interviewer on linkedin, and apparently he's renowned salesman that specializes in public speaking. I can kinda see that he enjoys his job. This morning I turned down an opportunity from him, yet I want to talk to him and ask what it feels like to pursue what he wants to do, hence the question: is it weird if I contacted him personally to ask him out for a coffee (or something) to talk to him? Asking for advice, his life story, etc. Yes I want to get out of this financial stress; I want my mom to be happy and give her back what I owe.

TL;DR

  1. No I didn't fall in love with the interviewer
  2. I turned down an interview from someone who invited me for one.
  3. I still want to talk to him.
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Is it weird to ask the interviewer (for the interview I decided to decline) out for a coffee? Is it weird to ask the interviewer (for the interview I decided to decline) out for a coffee? Reviewed by Louhi on novembre 06, 2018 Rating: 5

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