Been able to do every job I've had reasonably well but great difficulties with interpersonal relationships.

To cut to the chase, in every job I've held since in the past 5-6 years, I've done reasonably well in terms of work completed and work ethic (and have had formal performance reviews stating as such) but have also had SERIOUS interpersonal relationship issues with others.

I'm not going to lie here or sugar-coat it, the biggest problem I have going on in my life is getting along with co-workers, superiors and with other people in general. Perhaps "getting along" might not be the best way of phrasing it. More like, fitting in. I have been formally diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome and suffer from anxiety. I don't want to make it sound like I'm using this diagnosis as a crutch, but wanted to put it out there before anyone asked and for part of the context of this discussion. I have seen several therapists to try and get to the root cause of this issue. The best way I can put it is that I've had a few bad experiences in the past which has led me to become distant, aloof and sometimes defensive. I'm a pretty tall guy and can be pretty off-putting. I tend to not show a lot of emotion, and I've been told that its very difficult to read me or gauge what I'm thinking. I think with my aloof nature + this that people get the wrong impression of me, and this leads to some of the vitrol that is thrown at me. I have of course had the "weird" or "creepy" label thrown at me, among others that I'd rather not repeat here. This has come from all sorts of people, including superiors. I've lasted years in jobs where this has happened and it is my fault for enduring it for so long. I'd like to think of myself as a team player and as an individual whom enjoys helping others out. After all I am an I.T professional (a completely surprising job vocation as far as this post goes, am I right?) and thats kind of what I do. I can do the work well, but it can seem rather difficult to support people who aren't always seeing you in the best light.

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Now, I'm going to myself a brief pat on the back here and say that my interpersonal skills have actually improved over the past few years. Not long ago I wasn't even able to make small talk all that well, or at all, whereas now I feel I can carry a conversation to a reasonable degree if I feel like it. I've also "let loose" a little bit and shown off my humorous side a little more, and I feel a little more comfortable in my own skin. Like being a little more human. Perhaps I've grown accustomed to working in a hostile workplace and I've just adapted somewhat. Nevertheless, I can't deny that there is still a lot to work on and I still care a little as evident by this post. So I guess I come to r/jobs to ask for advice and see if anyone else out there has been in a similar predicament. Surprisingly, I have never been fired but I expect it may happen at some point, and luckily I am fully prepared financially if it does. Emotionally and professionally, I'm not sure.

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